How To Know A Guy Is Gay-Sheifunmi To Toke Makinwa

I was going through sheifunmi's blog this morning and I stumbled this wonderful write up and as you know, sharing it with you guys won't be a bad idea *winks*

Now Sheifunmi writes.....
Toke..Toke…Toke….sweet darling Toke, nobody knows what anybody is these days until they release a sex tape or caught in the act. I somewhat agree with the necessity that this topic should be addressed because i hate to see women hurt by gay men on the DL (Downlow), so discreet.. no! coded.. ehn that they have built furniture for themselves in that closetand this is as a result on their inability to pay attention to details or blinded by love and what not, you know how sloppy or mushy some women can be.

All that was said in your vlog indicating that a man is gay or bisexual doesn't actually hit the nail on it's head, asides the fact that they are stereotypical and oblivious. Most men are great undercovers because the society (Focus: Nigeria) doesn't accept it…infact it is a taboo, or not comfortable with their own sexuality and the ones that are debated to be "Bisexual" or in the favorite context "Metro-sexual". A very high percentage of these men don't fit in your signs because they are the ones that tend to be Mr Right or The Perfect Guy, they are all you ever want and need in your man… they go as far as perfecting the act by creating hiccups/relationship drama/problems couples go through or bound to occur in relationships.

So even your man could be same gender loving or bisexual and you won't know. So let us take to these potential signs that a guy is gay or bisexual, curious, bi-curious, gay for pay. (Unknown Fact: You've wondered, "Is he gay?" After getting to know him, most of your friends would say, "YES!". If you think your man is gay or question his sexuality then he most likely is, when you start snooping that is a huge indication that your man is possibly a homosexual)
When you're really attracted to a man, it can be very difficult to tell if he's attracted to you — especially if he doesn't know if he's gay. Sexperts even get blindsided, but just like cheaters, there are some signs if he's homosexual. So look out for the rainbow flags; Homophobic guys are gay 75% of the time. he can't be around other gays because he's afraid they will OUT him or is trying to conform with the society or what the society have decided they should be.

If he is too clean! Not all gay men are fastidious about cleaning their homes and their grooming habits, gay men are often very meticulous. There is a man i knew would chide me about my vacuum habits and was very judgmental about my kitchen dish towels being used more than once. His Sunday laundry ritual was hours and hours long and his evening bathroom routine would take at least 45 minutes and had to include: flossing, showering, shaving, brushing his teeth, face washing and a retainer. He even had moisturizing gloves to wear overnight and occasionally used a clay face mask, so men who obsess about their shower rituals, shave the majority of their body hair and have a deep aversion to a messy household, might in fact, be gay.

Men who like action figures; The only women whose hotness he comments on look like Barbie dolls or it's just too convenient to say you're only attracted to exactly what society tells you to be into.

Gay men often idolize people who have elaborate, over the top lifestyles. I've never met a gay man who hasn't loved Beyonce, Cher, Whitney Houston and Paul O'Grady! If your man loves divas, or watching famous "out" men such as Graham Norton, he might just be gay.

Men are sexual objects, if you haven't had sex with your man in over 6 months (infact weeks) and when you ask he refuses; he either has another woman on the side, you've let yourself go to the point of revulsion & the mere thought of your naked body makes him throw up in his mouth, straight guys typically love sex. They want to have it very regularly and enjoy it. Closeted gay men might avoid it or make excuses for not having it. They also may try kinky bedroom behavior or remain virgins. If all of his sex moves seem straight out of a magazine's advice column. It just feels like he's pushing buttons in exact order rather than enjoying himself.

He may go to your booty, but you have to take him by the hand to lead him to the Promised Land!
While many gay men have enduring female friendships as well as female lovers and partners, gay men have difficulty keeping up the charade. Oftentimes, gay men will have very short relationships and/or have a very "light" history of dating women. They may make "pretend efforts" to meet people to throw others off their trail, i.e. singles events, dances, cruises. Gay men will often tell the women they're with things like, "they're moving too fast" or make other excuses to avoid deeper commitments or attachements. They may even say hurtful things in an effort to push away the women they're with and force their hand in ending things.

Most men who sleep with women don't know the difference between a maxi dress and a sundress. Men aren't fashion experts. We're not here to tell you how good your dress looks with those heels and makeup combination. If a man is able to tell you the difference between these kinds of things… hmmmnnn!
This is a stereotype that's always proven true. Gay men often love watching stereotypical "female" programmes, such as beauty pageants, that reinforce the importance of beauty and glamour, he might also love over the top makeover shows, and big award shows such as the Grammys.
Shop 'til You Drop! Imagine yourself at the garden store and your man purchase plants and flowers and just as long at Bed, Bath and Beyond, he buys $80 salt and pepper shakers also has long drawn out shoe shopping excursions. While many heterosexual men enjoy shopping, oftentimes, gay men spend more time looking, browsing and buying.
Talk is very cheap, he is really vocal about objectifying women in obvious, yet awkward ways. "Look at that ass — yeah, boy, that's what I'm talkin' about!". When he's drunk, he jokes around about how everyone thinks he's gay but when he's sober, he would take that accusation seriously.

Most straight men cannot understand gays. While this doesn't mean they are homophobic, they just cannot understand why a man would choose other men over women. If your boyfriend regularly talks about how gay men had a hard fight and should be accepted, or quotes gay men or Oprah, he might be trying to justify his sexuality.
Many heterosexual males are excellent dancers and love to dance, but if your man pursues years of Zumba classes as well as swing classes, and is the first to bust out Britney or Michael moves, it might be a sign.
Private eyes; When close to another man, he'll stare at his body. For example, he'll watch the waiter's gun show when he drops off your plates. Who does he look at when you are out? Do his eyes jump from man to man, does he focus on hot men or does he not look at anyone at all? Like it or not, men have wandering eyes but a straight man will look at other women, even subconsciously. If he makes more eye contact with men, he's probably more interested in them..
"You know when you are young, you just want to explore, curious" *sideeye* Made out with a guy once. Telling one guy after a make-out session "that was the best kiss, I've ever had. It just felt right." Now, I know what you're thinking, he's gayer than Richard Simmons drenched in a rainbow flag while licking ice-cream off 2 naked men and you know but try telling that to his girlfriend, who on many occasions has complained about all the anal.
Peephobia? Gay men who haven't yet "come out" often feel uncomfortable in public toilets, and either don't go or use the toilet rather than the urinals. If he refuses to go to the toilet in public and instead wants to go home, it might hint to him not being comfortable in his sexuality. Remember, though, that some people are really only comfortable using their own toilet.
Gay men will often pick a female character in a game, or choose a very hunky man. The reason for this is unknown, but it is psychologically proven to be correct! A study shows that gay men almost always chose to play as Storm, while straight men chose from a range of men. So watch his gaming habits and see what character he picks as his avatar.
Is his facebook, instagram, twitter full of men he doesn't know? Does he have a secret online profile? Social networking sites are often the place men "in the closet" let themselves go a little, and be themselves. So they can offer big hints as to what he's really like! It's an even bigger hint if his new friends have particularly revealing or sexy pictures.
Want more signs? I think i have been help….. this post is going to haunt me for as long as you are permitted because i know y'all gon get bashful but hey! In all earthly fucks, not a single fuck was, is and will be given, so sit your body, soul and mind down!

Yours sheifunmi.net