HUH? 40 YEAR OLD WOMAN MARRIES HERSELF!

Here comes the bride…that’s the only part of the wedding march you need to worry about for this story. Yasmin Eleby’s wedding ceremony was impeccably planned down to the last detail. Ten bridesmaids, an elegant candlelight ceremony and a three-tiered wedding cake that was a work of culinary art.

Everything a girl dreams of on her wedding day—EXCEPT NO GROOM! No, the groom didn’t change his mind on their wedding day and leave her at the altar; there never was an intended. Eleby says she promised herself that if she hadn’t found a mate by the magic age of 40, she would marry herself. Eleby’s momentary lapse of common sense apparently stemmed from something in the drinking water in Houston Texas, because it also to spread to her family. The minister, her sister, helped Eleby to say her vows.

Eleby says it was actually just a spiritual ceremony because it is illegal to marry yourself in any state in this country. As for the craziness contagion, Eleby’s mother walked her down the aisle and gave her daughter away to…herself. Perhaps, Eleby sang Whitney Houston’s song one time too many…this is not a display of the greatest love of all—loving yourself. It is instead, a sad spectacle of her loneliness. It says, no else wanted to marry me, so I walked down the aisle alone. It is not the declaration self-love, it is instead symptomatic of a declaration of self-loathing. Women aren’t perishable items with a shelf life and stamped with an expiration date of “if not used by 40, please dispose of”. She is a beautiful, vibrant, young career woman who unfortunately has been brain-washed by fairy-tales and societal pressures to believe that if “this” doesn’t happen by “that” age, it never will. I know women who married for the first time at 44 years-old, another at 50 and a friend’s mom to remarry at 60 plus.

I suppose part of being an independent woman is spending your money however you want no matter what others think. Of course, you realize when Mr. Right does come along, she’ll have to divorce herself to marry him. Is this just a little too outrageous? Or do you applaud Eleby’s celebration of self? Credit: TheRealNetwork