There is a big difference between a woman and a girl. These differences
are not just about the age, but about character, strength and morals. A
real man deserves a real woman who he can build his life with.
So if you have a woman in your life and you want to know if you can have a real future with her, check out for these signs:
1. A girl throws tantrums.
When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child
when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of
screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive
aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being
upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus
reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly
what is bothering her.
2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so.
She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more
than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to)
not expectations (what she projects on to others).
3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.
3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.
4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy.
A woman plans to be financially independent — she banks on… herself.
And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes
sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a
bonus, not the expected life line.
5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity.
She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure
resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s
plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get
what she wants.
6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean.
A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands
that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also
understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a
person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.
7. A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.
8. A girl does not respect her body.
She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that
it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it
with.
“A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe
collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her
sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah
9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be,
the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put
thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not
established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often
inconsistent.
“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted
because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a
woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility,
and a passion for life.” – N. Mah
10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else.
Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears
skinny jeans, over six feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a
woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good
communicator, emotionally available…
Now, a lot of these
differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the
apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature
mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from
the beginning is this:
11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.
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