Mistakes Girls Make That Ruin Relationships

If the perfect boyfriend really did exist, every girl has her own idea of what he would be like. But the average guy is, well, just a guy. And often times, girls make these common mistakes while in a relationship with the "perfect" guy for them, but end up losing him. Here's a list of mistakes that you want to avoid when you're considering a long-term relationship with that special someone.

1. Trying to change your partner.
Sure, it would be absolutely amazing if he changed that one little thing, and you would be so happy, right?
Wrong.
Because what might be little to you, is actually quite big to him. This will make your guy feel like you don't love him for who he is, and trying to change him will only create a certain level of resentment and maybe even raise some concerns that he may not be able to fulfill all your desires, and you'll only love the person you want him to be.

2. Thinking you're not "good enough" for him.
We're all human. And humans are not perfect, and we probably will never be. But that's the beauty of life. Could you imagine how hard it would be to maintain perfection your WHOLE life? No matter how amazing you think your boyfriend is, you should always feel that you are just as amazing.

Put it like this: He wouldn't be with you, or fight with you to make it work, if you weren't up to par. Love is a very important part of any strong relationship, and in order to love someone, you must also love yourself.

3. Assuming he knows how you feel without telling him.
Guys are not mind-readers. They won't automatically know how you're feeling inside if you don't make even the slightest effort to inform them. OK, so you don't want to have to verbally tell your guy that he did something wrong, or that you're sad about something else that happened in your life.

That's completely understandable.
But when you expect him to just know and get mad at him for not understanding you, that's where the tension begins. Guys don't enjoy feeling helpless and confused. And if he has to struggle to get you to communicate with him clearly, he will eventually give up and look for someone that is honest and straightforward.

4."He's my boyfriend. It's his job to make me happy."
A good boyfriend should be doing everything in his power to make you the happiest girl in the world. However, you should not rely on anyone else to supply you with happiness. At the end of the day, it's a choice that you make and not something that can be given to you in exchange for love.
Sometimes, you have to sit back and figure out exactly what's bothering you, and instead of blaming your guy, try to share these feelings with him. Give him a chance to help you cope with these issues, because he probably won't be able to fix them (at least not all of them, anyway).

But if he's supportive and wants to be with you and cares about your happiness, this is usually enough motivation for you to say, "Hey, I have a good guy. Why should I worry about the things that I can't control?" You'd be surprised how strong a relationship can be when you focus on the positive aspects.

5. Believing that he just doesn't want to talk about anything.
It's a known fact that women love to talk. But believe it or not, guys are actually even more sensitive than women! However, most guys won't just open up to anyone, even if you've been in a relationship for a long time.
The mood, the environment, the situation — things just have
to be right.

He will talk to you about almost everything as long as you understand how to make each other comfortable enough to trust and communicate on that level of intimacy. Yes, it sounds like a lot of work, but relationships are all about learning, understanding and appreciating the efforts that you two make to create that special bond.